Yes this does relate to self care!
‘Jack’ was not my first experience of angry children. After all I lived with one! I had a very angry daughter. However, this particular experience with ‘Jack’ was very traumatic!
I was on lunch duty with him and allowed myself to get distracted. During that couple of minutes ‘Jack’ decided to try and take over a game of baseball. A teacher, who ‘Jack’ didn’t know, intervened which meant a major meltdown!
I was left to try and calm the boy! At this point he threatened to hit me with the baseball bat. Thankfully I had developed a good relationship with him and was able to talk him down!!!
My main reason for telling you this is because it was traumatic being threatened with the bat and no guarantee he would put it down.
(Now for my criticism of the system at the time).
Did I receive any sort of debriefing- NO!
So what did I do for my ‘self care’?
- Went to Maccas for a quiet coffee.
- Watched rubbish on TV that night.
- Ate junk food.
Stuffed my feelings down so I could cope the next day. (Without ‘Jack’ there, I never saw him again).
Not the healthiest self care things to do!
In hindsight what could I have done?
- Coffee at Maccas has always been good for me to sit and debrief myself!
- Go for a walk or do some form of exercise to release my feelings!
- Have a bath with calming essential oils!
- Burn my candles!
I hope this has helped you see you need to find some simple self care things to do!
Tell me some of your stories by leaving me a comment!
Bye for now,